Our Story So Far!

Jerry and I met shortly before Christmas in 2006 at a Cookie-baking party that I hosted at my apartment in New Jersey.  Our first meeting was uneventful, save for the hard time I gave him about making "no-bake" cookies at my baking party.

Soon after our first meeting, Jerry and I got into a heated debate about Christian dating - my argument for a more traditional courtship and his argument against group dates.  After over an hour we realized we could easily continue the debate, and found we enjoyed heated conversation with one another.  We still have not settled this debate, although its clear that my method worked for us.

Jerry and I continued to grow in friendship, enjoying getting together once in a while to discuss deep spiritual and theological concepts as well as the latest great movie or best sushi places.  We became very close friends and spent hours g-chatting and talking on the phone.  We really had no idea that our hearts were slowly growing feelings much stronger than just friendship.

In the Spring of 2007, as Jerry and several other friends and I were discussing and planning a cross-country mission trip, I finally realized the deep love that I felt for Jerry.  I was blindsided.  I had no idea what I was going to do, or how I was going to confess my feelings to Jerry.  I was terrified of losing a good friend, but also didn't want to be the best friend that falls in love and pushes away.

I did what any true friend would do, I told him we could no longer be friends, over g-chat.  He was not okay with this idea.  He called me instantly and asked me point blank what was going on.  I was literally trembling because I was so afraid of his reaction when I told him the truth - that I was madly in love with him.  You can only imagine my shock when after confessing this to him, he confessed his own feelings toward me.  Of course I immediately reminded him that I was not about to date him...a stance which didn't last too long.

Jerry and I took a day trip over to Coney Island where he says that I, "threw myself at his feet like Ruth in the Bible."  What really happened is that I wanted to define our relationship going forward.  That didn't really happen and we spent several months, until August 2007, trying to either hide or suppress our in-love feelings for one another.

When we finally landed for at least a temporary stay in Louisiana, I decided it was time to stop messing around and offer to begin something real with Jerry.  I invited him to ask me on a date, to which he happily obliged.  We started dating on August 4, 2007 and have been together ever since.

It wasn't very hard once we made our relationship official to realize we were in it for the long haul.  Jerry once told me that he had heard, "if you want to find your life partner, just run as fast as you can toward God and then look to your side to see who is running next to you."  This was certainly true in our case as our mutual love for Jesus was the foundation of our entire relationship.  

Thanksgiving 2007, Jerry took me to his home in Columbus, Ohio to see his parents and spend the holiday with his family.  I had no idea that he'd be getting down on one knee to express his desire to spend his whole life with me during that short trip.  I left Louisiana dating my best friend, and came back an engaged woman filled with hope and awe.

Shocking secret revealed:  Jerry and I actually set our wedding date about one and half months after we started dating.  We were sitting at the dining room table at my mom's house in Washington state, and just decided on a perfect date.  We had been traveling on a road trip all over the West Coast and had realized we never wanted to stop sharing our life together.

After a seven month engagement that almost seemed too long in terms of planning a Seattle wedding from Louisiana, we were finally joined together as husband and wife.  On Saturday, June 21, 2008,  I married my best friend and life partner.  Our wedding was very elegant and warm, we were surrounded with about 70 of our closest friends and family, and the weather was perfect.  After our big day we honeymooned for almost two weeks at an all-inclusive resort in the Dominican Republic!

In the fall of 2008, after over a year of living in Louisiana, we headed back to New York City so that Jerry could continue his acting/modeling career.  Despite coming back in a very bad economy, we were determined to make our life work in NYC.  I went back to work at a large medical institution as a billing coordinator.  We lived in a comically small but workable studio apartment as newlyweds.  

We faced a lot of challenges, difficulties and setbacks during our first year of marriage, it was entirely craziness.  Then as the saying goes..."first comes love, then comes marriage...then comes..." yes a baby in a baby carriage.  In the late Summer of 2009, we were surprised with the news we were expecting our first child.  




While I didn't love being pregnant, the idea that I was soon to become a mother just floored me.  We had no idea how our life would change with the addition of a third family member.  As I spent months and months pouring over parenting sites, pregnancy sites, planning every detail of my birth plan, how our setup would work in the studio, etc.  Jerry spent equal amounts trying to figure out how we would survive financially, how we could move into a larger space and the implications of impending fatherhood.

On May 15, 2010 at 5:19pm, we welcomed our daughter Zion Jayleen into the world.  For the details of that INSANE experience, click here.  Zion has been a complete game changer for us.  After going back to work 12 weeks after her birth and then subsequently resigning from my position to stay at home full time, I am seeing how God has worked out everything in such a marvelous way.  We couldn't have asked for better timing in her arrival, and feel extremely blessed to be given the privilege of raising her.

Zion is speeding toward her 2nd birthday, and changing with each day.  Even as I write these words I look at her in amazement.  From newborn, to infant and now toddler, each stage has been so different changing both Jerry and I in ways we never thought imaginable.   Zion truly makes everything in our life a little more meaningful.  Our decisions are more weighted, our behaviors considered and evaluated...we live life with legacy in mind.

We continue to live in New York City as a family of three.  We now live in a beautiful two bedroom brownstone with a large outdoor area on a tree lined street.  Jerry has left his pursuit of acting and modeling to return to finance, where God has blessed him (us) beyond our expectations.  Even though our life is not struggle free, we are learning to slow down and live life day by day.  I am currently loving being a full time homemaker - my dream job.  I pursue my passions of writing and counseling part time, placing the highest priority on my relationships with God, family and friends.   

**Update**

Zion is now two years old and filled with energy and spirit!  She amazes us daily.  We have been loving getting to know her big personality.  We're also actively trying to conceive - and hope to have news to announce sometime in the near future!!

This is our story so far!




23 comments:

  1. I absolutely LOVE the blog!! Great Job Courtney!! I love and miss you all!

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  2. Love this story!! I've enjoyed reading through your blog, too! :)

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  3. your story gave me goose bumps.. you have a truly blessed life..
    and a beautiful family!

    <3xojo

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  4. Wow! You are a gifted writer and a blessed lady! Nice to meet you! VB friend

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  5. I love this quote from your story!..."if you want to find your life partner, just run as fast as you can toward God and then look to your side to see who is running next to you."

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  6. Following you here from the Follow Fest. Hope to see you around my place sometime.

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  7. Love your story and LOVE that we have the same name :)
    Newest follower from October Fest!
    Courtney
    www.lilnoodlebug.com

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  8. I love your story, so cute! I am stopping by from followers fest, and am your newest follower! :)

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  9. love your story...and your little girl is beautiful. new follower from the follow fest. :-)

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  10. I'm here from the follower fest too and will be following! Your daughter is beautiful. I love your perspective on how the timing worked out. Things really do seem to fall into place when they're supposed to :)

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  11. Just saying Hi from Style Outside the Box! We would love to do a link swap with you! :) New Follower from Oct Fest! :) Come say HI at http://www.styleoutsidethebox.blogspot.com/

    :)

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  12. Love your story! Beautiful family!! Found you on followers fest and I'm now following you. Thanks for sharing :)

    -Mary Susan
    maemcconnell.blogspot.com

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  13. Gorgeous story! And how much do I love that Jerry's from Ohio? :D I'm gonna follow you. Hope you visit me back!

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  14. How cute! I love hearing how people meet and decide they are the one! :)

    coming from the followers fest!
    www.keylimedigitaldesigns.com

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  15. Lovely blog and great story! New follower from the fest, stopping by to say hi. Em

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  16. What a great love story! Beautiful couple and a beautiful baby!

    Found you from the Follower Fest!

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  17. Thanks for sharing. I miss NYC.....I met my husband there as well back in 2003. Kids come, and love changes.....for the better.

    Ali from VB :)

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  18. Courtney! Zion is beautiful of course and I am so so glad to see that you guys are doing so well :) You are such a talented writer and gifted woman of God- I learned so much from your life group at Aimee's and our talks in the office. I am proud to say I am your newest follower and can't wait to see you guys again and to meet Little Miss Baxtron!!

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  19. OMG. I just happened to come across your blog by chance....I love your store. You've just gained a new follower =)

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  20. Courtney- thanks so much for stopping by my blog and commenting.
    I love, love this story! You are so funny yet very wise.
    New follower!

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  21. What a sweet story! Your baby is beautiful. Popping over from MaMe Musings to check out your fun blog. :)

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  22. What a lovely family! Your blog is such a happy place. Thanks for sharing!

    http://www.practicallyperfectprincess.com/p/contact.html

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  23. The world keeps getting smaller! I have an almost identical picture in front of Westminster Chapel from my wedding! My dad is a pastor there, and your mom actually helped out a TON at my wedding! She is a great friend of my family. I've been following you for a little while but didn't realize that I know your family :) Blessings to you!

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Thank you so much for your lovely comments! I don't always have time to respond to each one, but I do read them! XO